In a Small Valley...Word of Mouth Matters!
I'm thankful for the past clients I've worked with who have been generous enough to ask if they can help to support my work in our local community by sharing a few words from their experience. I'm proud that most of my referrals come from families I have worked with in my community.
Here's what some of them have to say about choosing me as a therapist and/or parenting coach for their family:
My husband and I came to Valerie when we were at the end of our rope in trying to help our son navigate grief and rage over the suicide of his father, which happened years prior to seeing her. We had already spent hundreds of dollars driving him weekly to Wenatchee to receive one on one counseling for a year. Although it helped some, our son was still displaying rebellion and anger towards us and frustration towards teachers. Our son has always been an "intense child" with a good heart, but we were struggling as parents. I felt like we were failing and at one point I really thought there was no hope left. Even his counselor that my son had been seeing was deeply concerned as my son was just not opening up. I decided then that it was me and my husband that needed counseling. We started working with Valerie only a couple of weeks before the pandemic hit. I was very concerned that perhaps things were going to escalate with our son not being able to see friends, play sports, and be bound to staying home. Each week we met with Valerie she educated and trained us in the Nurtured Heart approach. Some of it was easy to grasp, and other parts took some mind bending for us to trust the processes and tools given. She guided us every step of the way. During our time with Valerie, my husband and I were able for the first time as parents to be on the same page in our parenting approach. We embraced the Nurtured Heart and approach and implemented it as if our lives depended on it. In only a month of implementing the Nurtured Heart approach we began to see tremendous transformation not only in our son but in our family. Our son was no longer resisting responsibility or chores. He was calmer, kinder, gentler and more receptive. He was no longer constantly on the defensive and was demonstrating taking a real interest in the welfare of our family. In the past, if we ever asked him to participate in home life chores or to help out with our business, we were met with anger and sometimes even rage and tantrums. He would shout profanities and slam doors and even leave home without knowing when he would be back. Sometimes he would be gone for days at a time when it was really extreme. It was a very painful time for all of us. But I can say now with complete confidence that our son is not the same person he was only a few months ago. If anything he is more connected to himself, his family and is genuinely content with his life. I see in him a stability, confidence, and a calm centeredness I never knew was there. Once we started celebrating and acknowledging him for his successes, our relationship changed. In the past my son's relationship with his stepfather (my husband) was always strained. Arguments were commonplace and this put a huge stress on my own heart and even in my marriage. Incredibly that has completely shifted. My husband and son now have a relationship of mutual respect. I no longer have to tense up every time I see them come together to have an interaction. Their interactions now are calm, matter of fact, clear, and established in respect and care. I am truly amazed. Not only that, but my son has stepped up to take interest in his little brother - teaching him how to be respectful and do the right thing. It warms my heart. He helps out with our farm and business and doesn't just do the "bare minimum". He is cooperative, hard working and showing up every single day. I can also say that our family of four are rock solid. I feel like I have the family that I always had intended to have - we are connected, caring and showing up for one another with genuine concern for each other's wellbeing. There is a trust now between my son and myself that is generative and nurturing for us both. I know without a doubt that we would not have arrived to this amazing space if it wasn't for Valerie and her mastery of the Nurtured Heart Approach. Valerie listens deeply without judgement, reflects back to us our strengths and continually reaffirmed our successes every step of the way. We didn't have to dive into trauma or drama. She was able to reflect back to us continually energetically what it means to be living the Nurtured Heart Approach, and I know that because of that, we too were able to change our own stuck energetic patterns and truly transform ourselves. I HIGHLY recommend Valerie to any parent who is looking to find solutions in guiding their children into their own greatness. We can't thank you enough Valerie!
-T.G.O and C.M.R, June 2020
"Valerie was exactly what our family needed when we were struggling with our 10 year olds anger. We felt very lost and Valerie was able to give us the tools we needed to help him. She is a great listener, cheerleader and skilled practitioner. We are so grateful for the time she took to help us!" -Methow Valley Parent, March 2020
" My daughter has been seeing Valerie as a counselor for over a year and I am
grateful for her caring & professional approach. She has not only given her
necessary coping skills for managing her life - but she has helped our entire
family dynamic by creating a safe place to express our concerns, our fears &
our joys!" - Methow Valley Parent
" Valerie's fresh, professional & unbiased approach immediately drew our
family in and made us feel safe to discuss the fears & concerns we had as a
family. She helped us help ourselves & we are ever grateful!" - Methow Valley Parent
"Sending your child to a counselor as a resource for help that parents may not be able
to provide, is an endeavor I do not take lightly. Not once did I have doubts
about choosing Valerie to work with our daughter - who, over time, showed marked
improvement in her outlook & her ability to cope with the overwhelming
challenges of life as a teenager." - Methow Valley Parent
Since learning the Nurtured Heart Approach (NHA), the bond between my 3 AMAZING boys has grown and is so strong that I feel nobody can break it. My husband and I use the NHA on each other now, it started out as a joke but now is sincere. The joy I get out from using the NHA is written all over my children's faces when I tell them how mature, amazing,and respectful they are. When people compliment on how compassionate, caring, and respectful my children are I credit the NHA for guiding me to the parent I am today.
-Katie, parent and wife